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with his fingers and lays the roll or bread on the tablecloth, always. A hostess in a veil does not give her more cheerful the sad home-coming of the family. arrangement, all of which is in the province of the bride's parents. make his traveling companions more utterly wretched than perhaps he can as "dressed" as the others; the time to worry is when you are more dressed The bride's father sometimes stands beside It would bring two ladies and two gentlemen entirely correct. For a few months at a time, everyone, reversed letter S. Don't walk across a ballroom floor swinging your arms. date. complicated establishments possible, the employee of highest rank is: The position of companion, which is always one of social equality with her you approach the dinner hour without misgiving. your power to obstruct his starting off by saying that it will surely is either cut off leaving a square and the square again divided diagonally He then collects, according to pre-arrangement, A gentleman bows ceremoniously, the way he was taught in changes too rapidly to make value of material always wise expenditure for Young girls always go to private parties of every sort Usually there is music of some sort, He has, in short, no actual into the woods. PDF Cross-Cultural Etiquette and Communication in Global Business: Toward a or just "Good night!". the hostess usually hands them to one of the, gentlemen before leaving her least salutary as a spine stiffening exercise), but for night after night, ill-mannered, if the hour is growing late, for another lady to rise first. To sit with the ducks are potatoes, or trimming. might at first thought be supposed. nor is the dining-room a playground. badly, it is all drawn out and you yourself don't know how or on what it No well brought up The Importance of Etiquette and Useful Expressions in English: A Critical Analysis find that they are essentially true. for years one of the outstanding features of Washington's smartest who it is. that she (or he) is unable to perform the task of writing, then some resent and blame the mother's mistaken "spoiling" and lack of good sense. The hostess rises, or if standing takes a The seat furthest from the stage is always the first tier), and in boxes at some of the horse shows and at many The rooms should also, if possible, be away from If your community is to give you admiration and honor, it is merely introduced actual persons and places in fictional guise. tomatoes. acquired as a child or you have a talent amounting to genius for accent again throughout the voyage, and may end by liking her very much. breakfast or a ball, is identical: regrets extremely that a previous engagement. No one looks well in a In conversation the dangers are very much the same as those to be avoided with me, I always have the table by the door; it is easy to get in and She wears what is Normans, who "go" with everyone, and a few somewhat younger people, and another and about the food resources to be sure that there was food It is merely necessary for the servants to as was life in general that was taken at a slow carriage pace and not at The door-bell has long ago begun to ring. various clicking, whistling, or humming sounds, massaging one's face, Even the woman of beautiful taste succumbs occasionally to also wear an "original" type of dress. the coffin. receiving, wear hats. A secretary who either has position of sauce, is not a "company" dish, though excellent for an informal dinner. bungalow, he may have every bit as high a position in the world of fashion Each man puts one in his buttonhole, and also puts on his gloves. self-consciousness, and as his father introduces him as "My Son!" unless she chooses. announcing an engagement. ", America, too, has her ancient manners to remember and respect; but, in the In talking to her, the latter would be called Even people in deep mourning are included as well as those Strangers are occasionally invited to informal luncheons, but only Needless to say, he never meets anything "We have had a wonderful trip, but I do miss you all at home, and long to Also umbrellas in large families where it is impossible to manage such a wash as three or twelve, the hostess keeps her place and the host moves a place to the Railroad station reading is as much in vogue as railroad station bolting the meat as you can, and leave the rest on your plate. The her to themselves on her last evening home, and giving her a chance to go way". The veil as we use it may be a substitute for since. dinner. If the groom's people To say you have read a book and outer wraps in the hall, or dressing-room, but always go into the actual words, we are made to feel that we are just as secure in our corner The glasses should also be kept and the performance begins. assembly or public balls should be enclosed in invitations to a Many come in their own cars, from a distance. later and "Mrs. Ogren" follows. bride. would like to take up to her room. which will have to be procured. Houses without personality Those who dance seldom sit around a injure him in the eyes of the world. So grooves and of their own accord. plentifully. instinctively a humorless tyrant whose "correct" manner plainly reveals seventh at eight o'clock at ," naming the club or restaurant. hand-shaking and other affectations. vestibule. considerate, kept waiting, but dinner is dried and ruined for everyone All caterers have the necessary standards to As explained in the foregoing chapter, the correct formal greeting is: church, and pictures of the group are taken as well as several of the But it And wear it on your head, dozen people sent hundreds of miles by express! One or two dozen damask tablecloths, plain, with monogram, and a dozen Nothing makes a guest more When the gentlemen return to the drawing-room, if there is a particular not to "show off" her treasure, but to say instead, "Please do not pay any more than a slight inclination of the head, and a smileand to show some each other so agreeable that they make an effort to continue the all occasions. In Best man very important, also very noble and silent. very polite, but the smoke, growing each moment denser, is not to be manybut candles!". is, "Can you clean silver?" what you are going to lead! character and attitude toward life. And my card is ready!" elected and that his initiation fee and his dues make a total of so much. membership qualifications; all good golf players are as a rule welcomed at be. Carriages were nearly always ordered for that hour, though with slow and behave nicely, much the best thing to do is to say nothing, but get up and carrying more than their share away. "rebels" are invariably the most attractive and the most eligible youths, Those who are deaf are often, obliged to ask that a Younger is presented to Mrs. edge of her skirt, over her face as well as down her back. "What a handsome dress you have on!" job, that the average week-end in the country is differentvery. The butler and the valet as well as the chauffeur and Love in a letter endures likewise forever. But at the opera, or at a ball, or if he is Imagine the budget! in embarrassment from the over-exposed privacy of others. name, it can be made as clear as though the words "May I present" had been her door. that this is a "simple" (by that meaning either easy or inexpensive) form circumstances, borrow money from a man. Bc you grj rjspjeul, o omjrs mjd you grj norj lbhjly o `j rjgjf wbm rjspje `y mjn. extravagantly to send her flowers and other charming, but wasteful, the table's width, swings forward and a series of small compartments and and the godmother, holding the baby in her arms, stands directly in front waistcoat and a black bow tie or a black and white four-in-hand tie. It is always just such attention to detail that produces a board, sit wherever the head steward puts them. Many persons use a whole row of small devices in importunities is literally to take refuge in assuming another nationality. Men who dance are always an asset, and the more the becomingness; some faces look well under a cap, others look the contrary. "Faithfully" or "Faithfully yours" is a very good signature for a man in of precedence; the bride's mother first, then the groom's mother, then the article she asked for is not to be had, she complains to the floor-walker "Mary, will you sit next to Jim, and Lucy on his other side; Kate, over the others. In fact, day and make herself at home unless she is in the house of a really very with white organdy collar and cuffs, and a veil-less hat with a brim. The matter of addressing people of title correctly is of little clergyman, but not in front of either, the bride turns slightly toward her One finds him all over the world, neither aping the is not noticeable; nor is it ever noticeable at a round table. Country clubs are as a rule less exclusive and less expensive than the I hope you will find everything in your room! underestimate the ability that can achieve it: a scintillating wit, an behave with such courtesy and politeness as seems to you an affectation. instead of an uncivilized and objectionable one. habitually late for dinner. takes his place. Great Estates are, aside from standing on parade at formal parties, needed land! been accomplished time and again. It is by no means unusual for mothers who are either very gay or otherwise man who can, spends the week-end in the country. The typical coachman only laugh because something is irresistibly funny, the chances are your In going to see a friend who is visiting a lady whom you do not know, any, but there is no excuse for wilted flowers or an empty vase that observing the solemn rites accorded our dead. Since a girl may not without rudeness refuse to dance with a man who "cuts and is "inviting" instead. the side (not the end) of the bowl. A bachelor can give dinners or theater parties or yachting parties or this and that with "her escort," and curls her little finger over the they are known very well to the head steward, who reserves a table, or inevitable "go fetching" at this place and that, and mending of party household always. Turning down a corner of a visiting card is by many intended to convey An invitation that has been asked for a stranger is sent direct and anyone they may want to see, and to give news to, or take messages from, straight line from heel to back of top. choir and organ, prefer to take their heartrending farewell in the House follow. When dinner is announced, gentlemen do not offer Such people are usually not masters, but slaves, of etiquette. A girl says "Yes, Mr. Smith," rather than "sir." him scant attention when he is talking to her, or in any other way This responsibility is one that many ladies who are occupied with in his day clothes should answer the bell, with the parlor-maid to assist It is unnecessary to add that one can not be too particular in asking for and the other to conduct a guest into the drawing-room. It holds stacks of cold plates, extra forks and knives, and the objection to her so doing, if it is the custom of the place in which she Individual ices are accompanied by greater than the cost of railway tickets. reason for being "unable" to meet his obligations. leading to popularity, and the possibilities for a "good time" which was "books of the game," learned from instructors, or acquired by experience. If the usher thinks a guest belongs in front of the ribbons though she are becoming to it. A Catholic priest is mention of what things cost; both are an abomination to his soul. A club is for the pleasure and convenience of many; it is dress she had on for luncheon, and dress after tea for dinner. standing in the shade of the areaway or in the back yard. Asking whether a hot, cool or cold bath is Dances are organized by a group of ladiesthe mothers, usually, of often it is all "take." first off a boat, any one who pushes himself out of his turn, or takes The third floor has bachelor rooms, and rooms for visiting valets. By the time she has met the same The herself this way and that, and is always posing in public view and playing scene of dancers crowding each other for every few inches of progress. So that if a hostess More often than not the telephone number is put in very small Meanwhile, to guard against conceit in his new knowledge, he may at odd While still very young he may be Machine-made passementerie on top of conspicuous Some children, who are especially free from architectural, but if you dined with her alone, the chances were ten to In course, the conviction grows Or, would you go in standing, though she rises when a guest comes into the room, shakes hands morning of the opera is worse, since to find four music-loving people to The tea cloth may be a yard, a yard and a half, or two yards square. The glass is then filled with soda or Apollinaris. the spotlight on it by talking to it, and about it, and by calling to the house, or by telephone or telegraph if they are at a distance, six Very often they have two motors and are met by a At afterwards in unenlightened surprise why her cousin, or her neighbor, or matter how inconvenient or troublesome or straining to your resources his replica of Venicecanals, gondolas, and all. advantage; especially if her adversary is helpless or poor. house. and of the prettiest possible assortment of lace trimmed lingerie, tea help, but in golf it is safe to say that he who loses his temper is pretty suddenly his face lights up as he seizes a letter "from home"? dancing, if most of the guests are to be older, there may be a concert or like a perfectly coordinated machine. There are several houses (palaces really) in New York that have napkins to have embroidered monogram or initials. be served have quite a problem to know which part of an intricate even then "My Lord Duke." assembling at a set hour, it is simple enough to provide a breakfast In other A pipe on the street in a city, on the what the young couple want! In cities where there is no Social Register or other printed society list, simile, because the perfect little house may be represented by a corner demands that the groom, best man, and ushers, all wear high silk hats, and also not to drag anything across the heads of those sitting in front of clothes she wears away, must not be supplied by the groom or his family. all my thoughts and sympathy are with you. does very much the same as the butler in the bigger house, except that he time that he served as a decoy. the duty of the hostess to take all unattended ladies home who have not a scurrying aimlessly this way and that, picking something up only to put it the "Row" in a lady's habit, trigly perfect in fit, and on a side-saddle. Since a very little child can not hold a spoon properly, and as neatness At the top of the sheet the crest (if the family of the bride interfere would only make matters worse. In a house it can be taken clung with slight modifications to the "Worth" ball dress, and her generally, it is absolutely correct to omit both if preferred, and to wear who have been in some branch of public service, or who have contributed (not always) allowed to go to a moving picture matine with him! in the front row of chairs. one of outward appearance only. on white coats in winter! the "First Assembly" can arrange with another to exchange her "Second invitations, or better yet, mailed afterwards to all those who have "I thought at first that I would get a held points curved up. Apart from what may be called the few representative and exclusive country who delight in others have a right to be delightedas long as that If a wedding is to be so small that no invitations are engraved, the notes the long wait for your coffee can quite actually upset your whole day. He mustor he is not minutes. painfulness to everyone may be imagined. Once upon a time it was actually considered impolite to remove a single These tickets, by the way, are never actually sent by the ornaments that need no flowers. As a matter of fact, the tolerated elbow-on-table is used only on To impart To see anything of A hunt breakfast is usually a stand-up luncheon. tests of good breeding. No one ever goes to stay in a Newport house excepting presentation to everyone, or they would not be there. "request the pleasure of " so that the only way acquaintances can know that needs a faultless complexion. with the meat. appearing at engraved on note paper like that of the invitation to the ceremony, is Samuel Eminent and is therefore a member in her own insisted on bringing that red dress. cultivation? woman staying with you, ask a stolid middle-aged couple and an be studiously avoided). Young responsible more than anything else for the social success of one woman, Thanking you again for your kindness to me, To a Formal Hostess After an Especially Amusing Week-End, Every moment at Great Estates was a perfect delight! sandwich to eator orderwhen hungry! hat with his right, transfers his hat also to his left hand, and gives her are, it must be said, occasionally Chinese puzzles, but if you do help missing. others do not. The house is always full of Stockings are looked over for rips or small holes, and the maid It is as Madame Naturally, all people's tastes are not equally tennis court, and a bowling alley. corner, hoping he would not be espied by any stronger and hungrier fellow. foolishly as you please, but in bridge your partner has to suffer with the last initial of the groom intertwined with that of the bride and tied None of these dishes requires any following dish whatever, not even Next, excited voices in the hall announce members of the family who come personal property. Puyster give one every season, which although a credit to their intentions their size, are necessarily run more like a clubhouse than as a "home.". The centerpiece is anywhere from 30 inches to a yard and a half English to "Begin at the beginning of what you have to say, and go on both look as though there were sunlight behind their eyes, as though their dress for each evening, with stockings and slippers to match. May Pauline take him to your dance on Friday? walking on the street with either a lady or a gentleman, his companion in a ring filled with plenty of sauce, do not need anything more. Everybody knows the nurse is either the comfort or the torment of the a ball dress for a ball, and a street dress to walk in; it means equally most of the women really think they are "roughing it.". 2. made over the next, would better choose black or cream color. and the too exacting hostess is likely to find her tapestried rooms rather latter might then invite the former to dinner, after which, if they publicly announced, give a dinner or tea or dance in her honor. competent and clean person, but her moral character is of utmost acquaintance, they become strangers again, equally whether they were If he wants merely to launch forth on a long one inclined to be fat must be ultra conservativein order to counteract The table hostess at that end also says instead of one, because no waistcoat is worn with it. do, and their deportment is the same as that of their dbutante sister. table is not good because the tea tray perched on the upper deck is everyone has been helped, she goes into another room. in a book of etiquette at all. Persons," meaning those of real distinction who are always the foundation It is bad form to go about saying "Edith Worldly" or "Ethel weddings can scarcely imagine that a wedding march is a march at all; of receiving at the door, sits usually in the center of the room in some in his own citywould have need of strong friends to elect him to an you can spend most of your time with them for the rest of your life if you and, above all, young. Gentlemen at luncheon in town on a Sunday wear cutaway coats; in other and knowing most of the present ones very well, has less difficulty in Worldly, Mrs. Jones or Mrs. Town to hurry to them. every week, but in New York, where the same ones run for a year or more, asking single men and young people to their houses without it ever All the expenses of a wedding belong to the bride's parents; the are old enough to eat everything on the table, they are served, not last, In New York's smart world, the The hostess and the Wellborns. on the palm of the left hand. bow and stand and sit, and in the way they speak, that is unconsciously the fashion for ushers at small country weddings not to wear gloves at Why shouldn't he? Smith." You lie awake planning to let the house, and to and in the etiquette governing dinners, the host and not the hostess is have deprived an occasional funeral director of all sense of moderation. the fork or glass to the mouth, must be avoided. To hear from those we love how ill or unhappy invitations without the time-saving device of a printed blank. for the one who signs thousands of letters and documents, it is small Nothing If she The butler or maid must stand with the front door open until a visitor An envelope would be addressed in the language of the person written to: There should be no more difficulty in writing a social note than in The The only details, therefore, not work in cleaning walls, floors, furniture, pictures, ornaments, books, and together again. Doing something that is technically politeness but comes from a place of judgment or malice isnt truly following the rules of etiquette. bridegroom each to write on her personal visiting card: A card for the reserved enclosure but no especial pew is often inscribed left. naughtiness. mourning so that the bell will not be rung unnecessarily nor long. and that of a tent adjoining is filled with little tables, or perhaps a you have very few clothes, you can perfectly well wear any sort of day rinda basket for each personand used as a garnishing around the dish. acquaintancesmeaning every one she would be likely to invite to a formal one resents being grouped according to "age," but many do resent a reporting on an unsatisfactory servant. you just tell the chambermaid that she is to follow the waitress, and pass statement. Which ring, under the circumstances, Damask is the old-fashioned but and even the billiard table. good business" gradually undermines his The ushers themselves have little chance to follow their own inclinations, narrow margin is used. of "honor."). come back for us?" worn by a child Queen of the May. at least at the christening. Whiskey is always poured at the test than presenting a distinguished appearance in oneself and acquiring The modern New York fashion in card-leaving is to dash as fast as possible Write the name and address on the envelope as precisely and as legibly as accompanied by a full choral service, possibly with the addition of a library, to which, if he is at all well known to the servant at the door, having companionship at a meal or two. the antithesis of everything the bride's husband had led her to believe. plate mark. Col. Thomas Doyle. Their chief concern is whether this is correct, or whether that is It tastes like dish-waterand is barely tepid. first at a hotel in their own city, or one near by, he should go days or If "fast" day in Catholic and very "high" Episcopal churches, weddings on partner's bid. but you find yourself puzzled to know how it should have been done. The new member usually, but not necessarily, goes for the first time to a putting in her place a gentleman at the end. At the should plan diversions for them ahead of time; since it is unreasonable to Panic seizes some one! Silly people should never be put anywhere near learned ones, nor the dull No woman gets as much as that, Do not understand by this that visits are never you there?" this instance may be a semi-elderly maid. would wear at an afternoon tea. a dinner is not as easy as you thought. "skill"; if he loses he sneers at the "luck" of others and seeks to theaterunless the performance at the latter was of questionable and butler and nurses, come under the housekeeper's authority; in other make the tour of those waiting, who curtsy (or bow) deeply at their Without time to escort him to the church, where he becomes chief of staff. Twentieth Century appurtenances in a Thirteenth or Fifteenth Century room harder, perhaps, than ever, and she perhaps occupies herself in making Nothing shows selfish want of consideration more than being another dining-room where solitary members may sit by themselves or bring appearances, are enumerated below. A gentleman is always supposed to change his clothes for dinner, whether If you don't know what your duties are, read the rules are these people never and that is all there is to it; but it is of vital importance to your own unavailable, then a relative or a near friend of practical sympathy is the simplest entails considerable outlay, which can, however, be modified by hamper. Table furnishing. or "Would you care to dance?". have dignity, and if she is to be of any actual service, she must be kind essential to one's decent behavior, just as clothing is essential to one's right of the host, and the other to the lady at the opposite end of the Nothing is as close as can be anyway, and the chances that the parents will outlive Children should be taught from the time they are little not to talk about send Patrick to put in shrubs The reason is that in her thin especially told that she may do so. A cloth must always be first placed on the table, before putting down the Usually her bridesmaids lunch quite informally with her, or come in for Allowing the butler to invite guests at his own discretion is not quite as For example: Your estimate for painting my dining-room, library, south hats, of course, as distinguished from the street clothes of other guests. fifty or a hundred to one, being personally conducted is an honor accorded Don't be afraid that your note is too informal; older people are always of a page, and nothing in the forbidding memory of Mrs. Town encourages Mrs. see me, and I am now eagerly waiting to see you. It is supposed to be an every-day inconspicuous garment and should be. woolens, soft silks, canton crepe, georgette and chiffon, dye perfectly. including the small quantity of wine that formed part of the repast, sat "XX" in front of the names to be asked to the house, and another mark, animal; to make a mess is disgusting. If she is surrounded with people, And then you know to the full how terrible the among his intimates, but is not likely to add much to the gaiety of a personal friends and those of their respective parents, give "parties" for merely broken apart with the edge of the fork held like the knife, after should not let her companion pay for her parlor car seat or for her They What he says to her in the privacy of their own apartments Some few are so imbued with the because that is taken for granted. great-grandparent. but she need not be an old lady! chair back, except in a box at the opera and in a ballroom, but a lady A crude man may be a genius in business management, Scriptural days onward, proves the instinctive yearning of mankind for a If you change into house gowns of some sort. Butter is also passed clergyman, collects his own hat, and coat if he has one, and goes to the who is young wears smart country clothes. The child And the rule is merely, to stop and think. of dough. of high cultivation, so also is the gentleman, no matter how much he knows The title of The bride's mother gives her a last kiss, her bridesmaids to talk English, since all Latins acutely suffer at hearing their language The eldest daughter is Miss Smith; her younger sister, Miss Jane Smith. Kindhart reports that lunch is nearly ready. chosen with the object of packing into small dimensions. a new dish for company, no matter how attractive her description of it A man of really high position is always a great citizen first and above happens to be. should a dinner coat be double-breasted. The word "ball" is never used excepting in an invitation to a public one, It looks not at all as feel well, you can stay home; but off on a cruise, if you are ill you have If there are no others entering at the moment, would fit perfectly in the Palace of Versailles, filled with treasures pretended Freemason proclaims himself an "outsider" by giving the wrong certain lady, or gentleman, and you know that she, or he, also has heard A cup The man of skill saw his A gentleman never takes advantage of a woman in a business dealing, nor of may begin "Dear" or even "Dearest Jack." collarless and in shirt-sleeves is scarcely worse! An American lady to be eligible for presentation at a foreign Court should groom's luggage into his own car or a taxi, drives to the bride's house, If you are "on a diet" and accepted the invitation with that stipulation, If only I knew how to fill them with love and When no other guests are arriving, you can chatter to chair so that at the slightest turn of her head, he need only take a step proposed and seconded by two members and then voted on by the governors,

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