He should just do it for free because he owes us.. Id indicate company reorganization rather than team reorganization. She hasnt made repeated requests for him to stop; she hasnt made any requests for him to stop! Stopping a conversation to pointedly make eye contact, impose a handshake, and tell a janitor what to call you, all in a bizarrely formal way, seems to me like asserting dominance. Really? Following privacy breach, Saskatchewan immigration ministry fires more Oh for petes sake! An even better practice is to require employees to install software on their cell phones enabling the employer to delete company information remotely. LW3: Ick! They made a big show of investigating it, and people will be fired etc. Its sexist, plain and simple. If I get an interview, after they judge me based on that piece of paper. They wont dig any further. I dont see how its classist, but I would also be uncomfortable giving my real name. (and let me tell you, I was not prepared for 32 miles). Im not sure how much I can push back if he refuses, or even what to say. Alison is suggesting a cheerful, matter-of-fact, in-the-moment correction to a co-worker; this is more like the lady of the manor telling off the gardener. You could suggest a friendly but less demeaning generic nickname. Check the box to remove their license, and check the box to remove their email aliases. Right, because both times I was laid off, it was then followed by a period of unemployment. mentioned that UK CVs include hobby sections, so I wasnt sure what the issue with thisor why this phrase in particular was called out in the headline. Its probably not cost-effective to hire outside counsel to do that my guess is the cost of legal fees would exceed the cost of the forensic imaging, and unless the former employee is rich, you wont be able to recover ALL of those fees from him. Its worth asking at least. You cant send a bill for a service that someone never agreed to pay for. The day of the layoff she got an offer at another company (more money! He calls her by name because shes friendly/present enough for him to remember what it is. :) There are quite a few other interesting terms too, my andsome being the main one. And you will likely not lose good will of your current employees. The whole manifesting stuff would have me facepalming and eyerolling, not apologising. I am not a lawyer, but to me, the behaviour of the ex-employee was essentially the same as theft and vandalism, and the company is justified in trying to get their own property back. Also in 2019, an IT consultant based in the UK earned a two-year sentence for deleting servers from his former employer's AWS accounts. If you ever have to navigate this, start by assuming very brief eye contact then look at their ears or the elevator, but watch (kinda sideways) whether they are looking at your eyes or not as you continue your conversation; if they look steadily at your face you can switch to looking at them more directly. Something like OP no longer works for OldBusiness and has not for over a year. It reminds me of Fezzig, Hi, lady! They are not threatening you but wont stop. These cookies are strictly necessary so that you can navigate the site as normal and use all features. I would end with This is starting to feel like harassment. I only include it in case it sparks interview questions, and it doesnt hurt because of the other skills and experience listed. The only other option I can think of is a smile and a hello.. But having the folder structure be : project llama groomers and you -> 2018 meetings -> june 2018 meetings -> Friday june meetings with bob and jane -> bob and jane meeting june 7 2018 about llama grooming.docx is overkill. I agree. LW4: it really sounds like this CV would be poorly received in the UK, too. Ive seen skits on SNL poking fun at this and the janitor on Scrubs didnt even have a name, so this is definitely a thing. Its amazing the things that companies never plan for! They save 15 minutes of creating a working folder structure and instead search forever for a file. Ah, thats neat to know. I can. Ive never had baby or sugar used by a man in a way that wasnt sexual. If they are fine with his attitude then its not really up to the new hire to demand more formality in the workplace. She took it off, thankfully, but I have been teasing her about what culinary expressions she is working on over the weekend. An employee has the right to receive a final paycheck and the option of continuing health insurance coverage, and may even be eligible for severance pay and unemployment compensation benefits. Hiking involves specialist equipment like boots, rucksacks, woolly hats to guard against exposure and has at least a couple of rocks to scramble over :), Thats hilarious I can totally picture myself in the USA, telling people all about how I absolutely *love* walking, and people smiling and nodding politely but actually thinking What is wrong with this woman? Yes, it smoldered the bridge, but it ended the barrage, because even putting them on ignore (via IM) didnt stop it. The *real* blame to the company here is two-fold: What is a good script to use when you dont want to give out your own name, like with taxi drivers or store clerks? I am adept at coordinating multiple systems simultaneously, and I have been responsible for maintaining the continuous function of five vital organs for the past 36 years. And it never worked because he knew he was making me uncomfortable and liked it. Im not clear OP has directly told the people making the contact to stop. Like, I cant send you a bunch of personalized notepads with my non-profits logo on them, and tell you that if you dont send them back to me in this postage-paid envelope, then you have to pay me for them. My coworker is in the office more frequently than I am and employs similar techniques. CEO freaked out when a new hire quit, brilliant employee is horribly inappropriate, and more, updates: stopping a nickname, taking over a deceased coworkers office, and more, update: our new admin crashed the company car and lied about it, my coworker keeps asking me for personal favors. Im guessing this is kinda a situation where I just have to let go right? If they try to get around *that*, then a consultation with a lawyer would be the next step. I dont actually like it, by the way, and would rather not defend it; I just want to push back against assumptions that etiquettes universal. We discovered after she left that she had deleted every single file on her computer all HR records, financial reports going back years, everything. (Theres also race walking, but thats its own thing, and not common.) Really? My resume has some stuff about marathons and BQs at the very, very bottom. Either way, I think Alisons advice is the best option here. I find myself starting random conversations with so many people and then running into them later that Ive had to develop a template for asking for names. And just because it *can* be used in a flirty or sexual way doesnt mean it *is* in this case. are all strictly off limits to the coorporation unless they have a informed the users otherwise. Im Miss Annie. (Even still, I feel like this more likely if someone else is introducing the person.). update: I resent my employee for being richer and more qualified than me, can I say I cant come to the office because of my dog, our unlimited vacation is really just three weeks, and more. I accepted job 2 due to the unexpected layoff, but have since discovered that Im not being challenged/theres no room for growth/its not what I want to be doing long term/etc. Just be honest. Entitled [my project name] decommissioning, that is. In August, 2020, for example, a former Cisco employee admitted to deleting 456 AWS virtual machines for Ciscos WebEx Teams application without authorization some five months after leaving the networking biz. AND they say they havent responded to any questionsso why not just block them? It makes no sense to only train one employee on Very Very Important Information regardless of the situation. A smiling, no touch aw, thanks, but Im not sweet! Also its always that the *position* was redundant (which means the person loses job, but with the appropriate level of redundancy pay) if you make someone redundant, and immediately back fill the position, youre opening yourself up for an unfair dismissal case! 2002. Instantly understood. I was thinking this, too. It should be a given in a job seeker, like punctual! I think the OP was suggesting that she have a lawyer write a letter, but it doesnt need to be a big fancy firm (at big fancy firm prices). I thought about starting with, Aw! Just to briefly acknowledge the kind intent. I think either one coming from a man would be creepy, though, and doubly so in a workplace. If you keep answering their calls or seeing them to explain over and over that you dont want to date them anymore, youre giving them hope that they can get you to change your mind at some point. Nope, in most cases your resume should not include reasons why you left the job. Fourth time and there after lasting until I left the company, told employee that I no longer worked for that manger and she would have to find the answer herself. One person knowing anything is bad policy. Im established with my business and I shouldnt have to change my contact information. Stick with the Captains scripts. Right, I think thats a crucial difference. But I digress: After the third time I took a few months off and then took a number of short term contracts. No, the LW does not have to consult the custodial hivemind before deciding whether to assert her preferences. He calls me hon and Im okay with that. Pretty sure you cant force people to opt out of a contract. With no indication from OP that he means to be threatening or creepy. 30 years? But since LW#3 doesnt like it, introducing herself and reinforcing that as Alison suggested seems the way to go. City officials fire IT employee involved in massive deletion of Dallas If I win the lottery, I will stick around long enough to transition over duties. Thank you! They could also provide your leadership a report of what was on the storage media, when they were moved/deleted, and perhaps how the data was moved on or off the computer. LW does no longer work there and theyre asking work questions. Employee Rights After a Job Termination - FindLaw Five days later, on May 26, 2021, Barile is said to have sent a series of text messages to a friend describing her destruction of her former employer's data. UK employers, in general, like to get a sense of peoples personalities and outside interests that might make them a good fit for the job theyre applying to, and standard advice here is that its not worth putting hobbies or interests on your CV unless they showcase transferrable skills that would be beneficial to the job. If they would be much better off simply sending someone else to the training. It would be pretty tempting to start giving them bad information (those files are most definitely in cabinet 3, just keep looking!! And shes not providing any services to them, anyway. A little bit agressive, yes, but it is warranted. I just dont know how employers could begin to mitigate the problem of not having enough workers with skills! You do need to be a lawyer to send one on behalf of someone else. I mean, it seems to me like a reasonable risk to take, especially if the team is small and the training is expensive. Heres how to do it in gmail: https://www.lifewire.com/how-to-forward-gmail-email-using-filters-1171934 Sounds like your main concern is the fact that he failed to cross-train on this software; and if he didnt do it while employed, I cant imagine trusting him to do so now, even if you were able to get him (or force him) to agree. I find it hard to imagine any employer being put off by it and its a fairly normal thing to include here. I think a lot of people myself included saw baby and sugar and immediately thought of cat-calling. 1) When one of my old co-workers was on her way out, we noticed certain files were missing. Tech company. Please dont call me that., Hey sugar, or Hey honey. LW can still calmly state that she prefers to be called her name and not sugar. If janitor forgets her name, he can ask, or he can decide to find ways not to need to use the name, but LW doesnt have to put up with nicknames or endorsements if she doesnt want to. Cynet Ransom Protection(DONT DELETE),' a folder containing information related to Cynets anti-ransomware protection software.". There is no telling the quality of the physical notes he took at this training (if he hasnt already trashed them), and it doesnt sound like any of the deleted files were crucial to the working of the system. It is standard to have a brief section at the end of your CV with something about your interests / leisure activities. You could just say, Hello or an equivalent greeting. Presumably this wasnt the only training course in the world. I know this isnt a constructive comment at this stage, but it sounds like your company needs to seriously reassess its IT and information assurance practises going forward. Would not apply here. To a layman, if an employee is terminated, they are fired. LW#5 For a lay-off instead of saying I was laid off, go with There was a company wide lay-off of 50 people or my department was eliminated. A former Dallas IT worker fired after deleting millions of police files last year while trying to move them from online storage didn't have enough training to do the job properly, according to. I firmly believe that a person should be addressed as they wish to be. Im not your honey/sugar. Kind of like an email address you use just for sites you know are going to spam you. I directly tell them not to call me that. It makes some men really angry and then they start arguing with you. UK application conventions do seem to differ widely from those in the US. Is he using those terms with any other employee? Never bothered me and the way they said it just sounded friendly. Now, it could be that one particular person is directing others to send things to OP and telling that person to stop and also tell others to stop will nip this in the bud, but its also likely people are doing this of their own accord. Its unnecessarily formal and unnecessarily cranky. Shes *really* nice, and I know hers (only driver for several years), but shes got 100ish kids and parents (2 routes); I think she does great remembering the kids names and where they live. Wan Ting Koh. Mines Bernice -extends hand- Let them take the lead, and dont make assumptions about their intent the subcultures mean that you cant just take Country X People Do This as your guide. And next week on AskaManager: Dear Allison, a co-worker resigned some time ago, but we still need his help on certain things. From the reading Ive done about body language, eye contact = dominance is the most common. Their boss clearly isnt going to do it and they sound clueless enough to require a fairly blunt message on the topic. Thankfully (or not?) I bet you have some stories about the early days. The way not to go amiss is to not use pronouns / names / nicknames at all. Ive been laid off something like 7 times. The lady in question had given up on about three different career paths because she didnt get along with other humans and couldnt manage a budget but was a really good cook and figured she could try to do something with that. I was laid off from a online tech news company. Dear is not universally popular, either, and can comminicate a variety of fairly insulting implications depending on context, culture, and tone of delivery. Barile spent 40 minutes deleting files. I live in a north eastern state and older black women used to refer to me as honey/baby/sweetie when I was taking public transportation to college. https://matadornetwork.com/abroad/15-slang-phrases-youll-need-know-cornwall/, https://www.lifewire.com/how-to-forward-gmail-email-using-filters-1171934, https://parseur.com/how-to/automatically-forward-emails/, updates: unhappy with changes at work, asking to unblock a website, and more. Dont do that. In a job interview Im usually asked why theres a gap on my resume. Also theyre not really using OPs services. Go to Choose a geographic location for your data. You walk them back to their computer and they arent allowed to touch it while packing up their things. You dont need to be an attorney to send a letter on behalf of yourself or your own business. updates: the monthly hikes, the coworker with the criminal record, and more, the outraged notes littering offices everywhere, update: my employee blows up my phone with memes and videos even in the middle of the night and refuses to stop, employer wants to hire my replacement but I havent quit, bosss daughter watches me while I work, and more, HR said a coworkers religion didnt count, employer wants me to lie about why Im leaving, and more, update: I feel no ambition whatsoever at work, updates: the blame-throwing employee, wearing a wedding ring to an interview, and more, updates: company asked for documentation of my dietary restrictions, Im afraid people at work will think Im being abused, and more. Our custodial staff just says hello directly without the name or term of endearment. Computer peeve 2 people who save everything in a single directory with apparently random file names and when they need to retrieve an old file spend ages trying to figure out what search term(s) wont bring up most of the files and will narrow down the search a bit. It was like providing my first name was also giving them permission to chat with me throughout the day and make comments on my body and relationship status. Focusing on the deleted files may be a red herringit may not solve the immediate problem. You extend your hand far away from your body to shake hands, to show physical distance. Obviously this doesnt help the LW now, but this is definitely implement going forward. The first thing to learn from this is that, when you let go an employee, they can sometimes do irrational things. It may be a hill youre willing to die on but insisting on far more formal address than others in your workplace WILL single you out, and not in a good way. The problem with that (in addition to what others said) is that it sounds like the requests are coming from multiple people, not from one particular former coworker. And even if they wanted to, usually what happens is once theyre back at work they never have time to do it. You just say hi. Nothing else necessary or needed. NYC is one of the most diverse places in the world. Until recently, employment and data security lawyers would tell you that the employee is at risk of violating the federal Computer Fraud and Abuse Act (CFAA), which provides both criminal penalties and a civil cause of action. You might want to escalate then anyway of course, but if he was calling me something like dear Id maybe give it more time. A CV four pages long is a problem. Try doing that before you even take the time to block them. I tend to agree, Brad C. I have seen this single-point-of-failure situation occur a few times, and the ex-employees files were irrelevant, and a specialist consultant was hired to bridge the knowledge gap and train others. I leaned over to my boss and said My God, [boss], its all of us I typically respond How are you today, Ray? and then we chitchat a bit, or Have a good one! as I breeze past. Exactly! The four files that remained lost were overtime records, the SFA requirements document needed for factory audit, a product list meant for workers as a guideline, and an acknowledgement . Nobody ever talks about it. Its one person for all the emails. Well, decent people at least. My boyfriend was doing his taxes and I saw him save the electronic copy of his W2 to his documents folder as taxes. It is the boss job to manage what his employees do on company time, and to manage how they appropriately find answers in the workplace, so that could be worked in there, too. I might not have fully grasped that bit). One assumes that the janitor has done something bad and needs to be fairly harshly corrected. That is a great way to handle a situation like this one! nothing to add other than I love your name! I never delete anything when I leave a job unless its emails saying cakes in the kitchen!. Question answered only upon receipt of payment and after it has cleared the bank. I bet the menz get called big guy and sport. Besides, MusicwithRock just gave a suggestion. If the magazine isnt folding, theyre cost-cutting. The two HR people who laid me off the third time got freaked out when I walked in to the room looked around, saw the paperwork on the table face down and said You about to lay me off, arent you! They wanted to know how I knew and they wanted to know why I was not upset and in fact smiling(It wasnt the most brilliant of pay outs). Actually, you have some legal recourse here: the Computer Fraud and Abuse Act makes it illegal for an employee to knowingly damage electronic files, which includes permanently deleting them without authorization, and your employee could face criminal and civil liability if you chose to pursue that.. Frankly, Im not even sure what legal theory would underlie a lawyer letter, but Im also not sure it matters. So I might suggest something more like, I dont think we ever formally introduced ourselves! You assert your right to reframe the relationship from honey to Mrs. VanPenismith, firmly shutting down their attempts to make it friendly and casual. If I didnt like it, Id say Oh, do call me Lavinia, John and if I wasnt already addressing him as John, Id of course find out and use his preferred version of his first name before doing this. (But its assuming their IT consultant didnt already take some of these steps and that they dont have factors like solid-state drives or super-secret-double-probation drive encryption.). As Alison said, his notes might suck. I mean, you can try it, and its possible that itll make your point (but its unlikely that theyll pay it), but with a boss who says its not his responsibility, Im skeptical that itll move him to action. But for OP you did what you could. Im considering filing for a restraining order. Is that the kind of emotion intended from the MFA in creative writing? According to the MSN article (Disgruntled HR executive trashed personnel files and deleted 17,000 resumes after being fired now faces up to 15 years in prison, written by Lukas I. Alpert), Federal prosecutors say that Medghyne Calonge, 41, of Tampa, Fla. had been let go in June 2019 after just six months at the New York-based online . But the answer may be no.. Fair to say that I had no idea that also meant hiking which is rather embarrassing as an ESL instructor for the last 10 years (Canadian English though). I would very much doubt if the company didnt have a claim on the work notes (and any other materials) produced from a training session they paid for, and deleting work files was damaging or destroying company property. You can lead the horse to water but you cant make it drink? I know that our janitors name is Maria because that is what her shirt says, but she doesnt know all of the scientists names because we wear business casual. I think thats a super valid way to feel the old, when your hobby is your job its not fun anymore thing can be totally true. Right. fill in the same person again and that you will not be responding to any further questions from this number. They happily sent another copy. Granted, my mind went to walking in the neighborhood/at a park rather than hiking, but that is such a common hobby (at least in my social group/geographic area) that it didnt strike me as weird. If people say no to these cookies, we do not know how many people have visited and we cannot monitor performance. My colleague told me that one of my predecessors had had a job offer withdrawn when they had deleted their files upon leaving as the company informed the new employer that theyd acted unprofessionally when they called for references. OMG. Even reading Sugar, its in Nancy Gribbles voice. . She *still* gets to decide she doesnt like it and wants to just be called her name. But my first read was that it was more infantilizing since it was an older person addressing a younger person. *huffs at bad customer service*. The amount of hoop-jumping, straw man-ing and insistence on fictitious hypotheticals as absolute fact just defend this mans right to make a woman feel uncomfortable is astounding.
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